Danielle | OpenlyCommitted (@openlycommitted)

Mom mode to Supreme Being. A transition pretty much every mom makes on a daily basis. And a special shoutout to all the parents out there making #halloween magical! 🎃🧡 Happy Halloween!

Unpopular opinion? I understand BOTH sides of the veto power debate in open relationships. For a couple just opening up, veto power can feel like a safety blanket. But for someone dating into that relationship, knowing another person could end things at any moment can feel pretty unsettling. I…

I usually just say I’m in an open marriage. It’s simple, I like how it sounds, and it leaves room for our relationships to evolve. But people often assume “open” means physical connections with other people are okay, while falling in love isn’t. That’s never been our definition. Lately, I’ve…

Why is making friends in your 40s so awkward?! 😂 I can ask a man out on a date without thinking twice, but asking another mom if she wants to grab coffee? TERRIFYING. Making friends as an adult woman should not be this hard. 😂 #MakingFriendsAsAnAdult #MomFriends #Over40 #FemaleFriendships

Imagine if we talked about friendship hierarchy the way we talk about hierarchy in non-monogamy. 😂 #nonmonogamy #openrelationship #heirarchy

On Saturday Night Live, Shane Gillis said, “I haven’t been to the gym in so long, I didn’t know women just dress like whores now.” Since when did short shorts become whore attire? lucyhuxleyx said it better than I could: “In our patriarchal society, the worst thing you can do as a woman, the thing…

I’ve been hearing a lot of talk lately about whether consensual non-monogamy is a choice or an orientation. For me, opening my marriage was a deliberate choice. But I’ve talked to enough people to know that for others, it feels like an orientation. They genuinely feel they were born that way. I’ve…

This is part two of making my son‘s all-time favorite meal, fried mac & cheese bites. In part one I talked about having difficult conversations with my son about consent and respect, but I am also raising a daughter. So having age-appropriate conversations with her is equally important to pave the…

I'm making my son's all-time favorite meal, fried mac and cheese bites, partly because we've been talking about some pretty serious things lately. I don't want the first time my son and I have a difficult conversation to be when something difficult has already happened. There are age-appropriate…

I gender-swapped the Cornell group chat. They did the unthinkable: nothing to him. #groupchat

**Not all men. But you don’t know which men.** Our open relationship isn’t perfectly “equal,” because the risks aren’t always equal. When I date men, we communicate more about location and safety. #enm #relationship #opencommitment

Don’t be convenient to someone else! Especially if that person isn’t offering much. #enm #opencommitment #relationshipadvice

Opening your relationship might end it. But that doesn’t mean opening was what broke it. #nonmonogamy #openrelationship #relationshiptok #opencommitment

I spent days making a satyr costume for one night of dancing until sunrise. Usually, when I pull out my sewing machine, I’m making costumes and projects for my kids, which I love. But it was so much fun creating something completely over-the-top for myself. Even better, I got to do it alongside my…

Marie flew all the way from Germany so we could put our crafting skills to very good use and dance until the early hours at @foxandbadge, an incredible one-night immersive costumed festival. As two moms, nights like this are rare. Getting to turn off mom mode, dress up as sexy satyrs, and…

Calling 2026 from 1955 and finding out we’re still debating whether women should control their own pregnancies and votes. Welcome to the future! 💅

Ah yes, the children. History’s favorite excuse for judging families you don’t understand. Every generation becomes convinced that this particular kind of family will ruin the kids. Divorced mothers. Interracial parents. Working mothers. Two dads. Polyamorous parents. Kids need love, safety…

Yes, I did purposely dress up as a tradwife to speak on a panel about non monogamy in mainstream media. #enm #opencommitment

Being part of someone else’s story doesn’t automatically make every detail yours to share. You can ask for support while focusing on your own feelings and experiences. Privacy isn’t secrecy. It’s part of respecting someone’s autonomy. #RelationshipAdvice #NonMonogamy #ENM #opencommitment

I love traveling with my husband. I also love traveling without him. Somewhere along the way, society decided that a happy marriage should mean wanting to do everything together. The same vacations. The same hobbies. The same adventures. But after 16 years together, one of the things I appreciate…

I don’t think there is one universally right time to talk to children about non-monogamy. It depends on the children, the parents, the partners and the family. Ultimately, it has to come down to what you genuinely believe is best for your kids. #enm #polyamory #parenting #opencommitment

Compatibility isn’t about having the same label. It’s about wanting enough of the same things from the relationship you’re actually building. Polyamorous, open, monogamish, swinger, relationship anarchist… these words can be incredibly useful for understanding ourselves and communicating what we…

Replying to @Tipsyteapot Saying that an open relationship has a 92% failure rate is an unsourced statistic. But at least it has an origin. The 99% does not. That 2010 essay quotes a psychologist saying that less than 1% of married people are in open marriages. But that’s not the same as 99% fail…

This tiny clip made something click for me. A month or so ago, one of my posts reached a few hundred thousand people after I compared coming out as open to coming out as gay: the vulnerability of telling people you love something important about yourself and not knowing how they’re going to react…

Loosely based on personal experience… I still recommend @Feeld to anyone in a consensual open relationship looking to date! #enm #nonmonogamy #opencommitment

I would love any other recommendations from the community! How do you get over a breakup and heartbreak in ethically/consensual non-monogamous relationships? #enm #opencommitment #nonmonogamy

How do I get over a break-up? The standard answer is that I'm glad I got to have the relationship. A new person in my life, feelings I hadn't had before, and I'd rather have had all of it than not. That's true for most of them, including the ones where I got my heart broken. It isn't true for all…

My ENM take on this trend 😂 I’ve got a Plan A. And B. And C. And D. And maybe E — but unlike other plans, mine can overlap 👀 (And no, these obviously aren’t my actual kids, husband or partners 😅) I don’t share their faces publicly. Marriage, kids, boyfriends, girlfriends, full polycule chaos… and…

I waited twenty years to see giant pandas. We built the whole Chengdu leg around it and stayed out in the Qingcheng mountains so we’d be within range of two bases. Wolong first. Broke up bamboo, made panda cakes, scooped a genuinely impressive volume of poop. It was everything I wanted. Then…

I'm very intentional when I date outside of my marriage. The intent of our recent family trip to China was to experience China! to spend time with our kids and our family. So no, even though my husband and I are in an open marriage, neither of us was looking to meet new people or date on our…