Jessica | NS Reset Mums (@stillgroundstudio.reset)

⚠️ Let me start by saying It's not that you begrudge him going out. It's that he gets to go without thinking about it. No checking the nap, no prepping a bottle, bags and no leaving a list. He just goes. And every time, something tightens in your chest that you then feel guilty for feeling. That…

Hills I will die on as a nervous system coach for mums (no apologies this time) ‼️ 1. Bouncing back quickly after a hard day isn’t resilience. It’s often dissociation with better PR. 2. “Just enjoy every moment” isn’t harmless advice. It’s guilt dressed up as encouragement, especially on three…

You spent the whole day waiting for this moment. The moment someone else walks through the door. The moment you don’t have to be the only one answering questions, making decisions, carrying the mental load. You imagine finally getting a break. Then they arrive… And suddenly you’re quiet…

Nobody tells you the toddler years are this loud. 😂 Not just the noise. The pace. The unpredictability. Going from giggles to a full meltdown over the wrong colour plate in under four seconds. *** Follow if you're in the thick of the toddler years and want someone explaining what it's doing to…

Save this, and try the tool tonight. It takes thirty seconds. When you're running on empty, your brain gets very good at spotting what's going wrong. The mess, the whining, the thing you forgot. That isn't a personality flaw. Your brain has a built-in negativity bias, and in survival mode it gets…

Being a nervous system coach for mums is so fun because I spent years training in polyvagal theory, somatics and nervous system regulation, just to watch someone with none of it tell a mum at her limit she just needs more patience. 🙄 Here's what all that training actually taught me. Patience…

The kids are finally down. There's a list of jobs. And you're on the sofa, phone in hand, an hour gone, unable to make yourself start a single thing. Then comes the voice telling you you're lazy. You're not lazy. You're flat. Comment RESET and I'll send you my free Reset Kit with tools that…

Follow for part 4. I'm a certified nervous system coach, and this series is for every mum who can't see how far she's come. Progress in your nervous system rarely announces itself. It shows up in tiny moments that are easy to miss. Hearing the baby cry and not jumping out of your skin. Leaving…

Save this for the next time you feel yourself brace when he walks into the room 🤍😏 Because resentment isn't you being a terrible partner. It's information. It builds when needs go unmet for long enough. The invisible load, the constant noticing, being the one who always holds it all. And your…

Unhinged things I do because I refuse to have a mediocre motherhood, Part 4. Three more tools you can steal the second you feel it rising. 😮‍💨 The bubbles. A long, slow exhale is one of the quickest ways to tell your nervous system it's safe to come down, and a bubble wand forces you to do it…

And just like that old laptop, it's slowing down, overheating and making a worrying noise by about 6pm. 🫠 Your brain holds on to anything unfinished so it doesn't get forgotten. Every open tab, the costume, the form, the dinner nobody will eat, keeps a little bit of your nervous system switched on…

Nobody warns you that the loneliest part of being the default parent isn’t the exhaustion or the mental load. It’s doing all of it right next to someone. One of the loneliest parts of being the default parent is realising you can be standing right next to someone you love and still feel completely…

If you keep looking at other mums wondering how they seem to have motherhood figured out while you’re just trying to get through the day, I want you to hear this. I used to think I needed more patience. Better routines. More organisation. A thicker skin. Somehow, I thought everyone else had worked…

If somebody's made you feel bad about any of these, even if that somebody was you, tell me which one in the comments. REPOST this for the mum who needs to hear it today. 🤍 None of these are laziness. They're what a nervous system does when it's been in survival mode for too long and has to ration…

Save this for the next loud afternoon, and follow along if you want to understand what your body is doing in motherhood, explained by a certified nervous system coach. That crawling, hot, get-me-out-of-here feeling has a name. It's sensory overload, and you're far from the only one. A recent US…

Follow for honest nervous system support for overstimulated mums, the kind that actually fits around real life 🤍 Because nobody asks how YOU are doing. So I'm asking. No essays needed. No pretending you're fine. Just pick the GIF that sums up your week and drop it below 👇🏼😂 I'll go first in the…

Because nobody is enjoying this moment. Not you, not the toddler, and definitely not the man trying to reverse out of the next space. 😂 Follow if you want nervous system support that's honest about the hard bits of motherhood, not just the ones that look good on a fridge magnet 🤍 "Enjoy every…

You know that feeling when it’s not even 10am and you’re already completely touched out? Every small hand on your arm. Every “mum, mum, mum”. Every little body that needs to be on you, near you, held by you. And you love them. You do. But your skin is crawling and you have nothing left and the day…

Save this for the days you think nothing's changing, and follow for part 3. Most of us only ever learn the signs that something's wrong. Hardly anyone tells you what getting better actually looks like, so the progress slips past unnoticed. Leaving the dishes till morning can feel like letting…

Because here’s what I think we’re getting wrong. ⚠️ We keep telling overwhelmed mums to regulate themselves without ever questioning what’s keeping them overwhelmed in the first place. She’s touched out because somebody has needed her body all day. She’s overstimulated because there’s been…

Here's the math, save it for later! And comment RESET for my free Reset Kit, it has the full 60 Second Reset walked through so you can copy it exactly, plus eight other free tools 😮‍💨 I didn't have time to add anything to my day. So I attached a reset to three things that were happening anyway. 1…

Unhinged things I do because I refuse to have a mediocre motherhood, Part 3. All three work in the exact moment you feel it rising. 🚿 The cold water. Cold water on your face triggers the dive reflex, which slows your heart rate within seconds. A bowl of cold water for 15 to 30 seconds, or a cold…

For every mum pacing the landing at 3am with a baby who won't settle. Comment RESET and I'll send you my free Reset Kit, with more tools you can use with your arms full.💓 You can't always calm the baby. But there's one thing you can always change, even mid-rock, even exhausted. Your out-breath…

Save this for the next time you realise you've been nodding along on autopilot 🦕 Because calm on the outside doesn't always mean calm on the inside. 😂 Sometimes it means your body has quietly checked out. The nodding. The "wow, really?" The "mmhm" in all the right places. Present in the room, but…

Nobody prepares you for how much of yourself can disappear when you become the default parent. You don’t just have less free time. You lose the little pieces of life that used to make you feel like you. The hobbies you used to have, the things you looked forward to, the spontaneous plans, the…

Being the default parent is soooo fun because I've done over 1,800 bedtimes just to watch him do one and get called a "hands-on dad." 🙄 And that flash of something in your chest when it happens? That's not you being petty. When you're the default parent, almost everything you carry is invisible…

If you keep wondering, “Why do I feel like the only one finding motherhood this hard?” when you love your kids and are doing everything you can, there is something I wish I’d understood sooner. I thought I needed more patience. Better routines. More sleep. To get better at managing everything…

Contact nap. She's finally asleep on you, warm and heavy. This is the moment everyone said you'd treasure. And you feel nothing. Not connection, not relief, just blank. And then the guilt rushes in to fill the space. That flatness you feel isn't a lack of love or connection. It's your nervous…

Third time tonight. You lay her down, inch your hand away, and she's awake again. And the voice that comes out of you is sharper than you meant. You hear it as it leaves your mouth. Instant regret. That flash of heat isn't a personality flaw. A UK essay published by Hyphen this month, written by…

When the house is loud and everything feels like too much, your body isn't just stressed. It's on alert. Your nervous system is quietly scanning for danger, and in motherhood, with constant noise, mess and little people needing you, it rarely gets the all-clear. Orienting is one of the oldest ways…